Let’s stop generalizing people

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Do you know what really “Grinds my Gears?” when people make comments generalizing that men/women are all the same when they get their heart broken. It’s impossible for them to be the same to begin with. Show me scientific proof of all men/women being the same I will retract that statement. I mean that they have the same DNA, brainwaves, etc. Also, just because one guy is a total tool or one girl plays with too many hearts, isn’t a reason that you should be making comments like that to begin with.

I totally get and understand that your heart is probably been broken by the person you probably just met and made decision about without getting to know them, but you need to give someone a chance before ruling them out. While first impressions are important, generalizing by gender isn’t the answer. Sure, there is similar traits that both men will share with men. The same goes for women as well. Do you know who is the real culprit in this? Society. They are the reason for sometimes lack of individuality being shown when you first meet someone.

If we were all just open and honest, then we would all live in a better society. People also needs to stop playing the victim card. If there wasn’t a connection, then move on. You can’t help that the person doesn’t want to you. Generalizing isn’t helping either. Sure, it’s might help kill the sting because rejection sucks but that’s it. Just think about how much it would suck if people thought the same about you? Do you want to be generalized as a player if you weren’t? Or that you sleep around if you don’t? Think about they before you say that all men/women are the same.

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Immaturity is just wack

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Do you know what really “Grinds My Gears?” People that act immature.

How hard is it really to just act like an adult and treat everyone with respect even if you aren’t particularly fond for them? Like if you are pissed off at someone, don’t act like you are 12 years old just ignore the person. Just can’t go through life not speaking to people you are made at. If you do that, then you will be very lonely because let’s be real: you aren’t going to get along with everyone, including people who you consider to be friends. Unless the person is just an acquaintance, which you should really look at your life if you get yourself into a tizzy then, you need to learn how to get along with them to the point of exchange the occasionally full sentences. Now, I’m not telling you be planning a sleepover where you play Truth or Dare, but just enough to where it’s not awkward to the people around you.

It’s also very immature to make fun of the person that has pissed you off. If you are on the level of maturity, then maybe you should go back to Elementary school. Now this is personal pet peeve of mine but if you are going to make fun of me, at least have the decency to do it right and properly. Like if I do something a certain way that make you want to kick a small child into a pit of tar, at least do it the way I do and not the way you think I do it. Take the time to study my movement and mannerisms. I still won’t take you seriously but it at least makes your immature act look a little more credible.

Another immature thing is complaining about the person in-depth. Now I have a gold rule for myself when it comes to complaining about others. I give myself 5 different moments to complain about someone, which can be used on 5 different people or the same. After 5, that’s a realization that it’s not worth my time and I need to move on. Constantly complaining about someone just makes you look very petty. Also, word to the wise, if you are complaining to someone, make sure it’s not to people who are associated to the person that pissed you off. Loose lips end up stabbing you in the back in the end.

Now before you judge me, I am by far the opposite of perfect when it comes to this list. I’m working on it, but I’m guilty of partaking in some of the things I have mentioned above. So in a sense, I’m the pot calling the kettle black. But at least I’m willing to admit it. I’m human so get over yourself because more than likely you have done some of the same as well. The main point of this is to point out that we, as a society, need to get are shiz together and learn to cooperate with people. We aren’t going to get along with everyone all the time. If we did, then we would be bored and bitching up a storm. I like to thing that working with people who you don’t necessarily get along with makes you a better person. Two conflicting minds usually makes for a great product when used right. It helps you see how things differently and let’s you hear someone brutally honest opinion.

It’s tough sometime to work/live/hang out with people you don’t get along with.There will be times where you want to drive a spoon into someone’s eyes. You really just have to power through it because at the end of the day, they aren’t going to always be around you (unless you live with them). If it starts to get horrible bad, then start a conversation with them about the friction because that will start to get the ball rolling. Just don’t be immature when someone pissing you off. There is a different because venting to relieve the stress of anger and being a massive dick/bitch/tool/Justin Bieber.

The Heart Wants What its Wants

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You know what really “Grinds My Gears?” Homophobia.

Across the pond, a British DJ decided to walk down the street and hold hands with another straight friends of his after he heard his openly gay friend talk about harassment he gets when he walks down the street holding hands with his boyfriend. Like any good social experiment, they video taped it. As they walk down the street, you can see the looks that they get. The people literally go out of their way to stare.  It reminded me of the scenes in teen movies where the main character had a rumor spread around about them and they walked down the hallway in slow motion as the people turn their head and talk about the main character with the people around them (I’ve had that happen before and believe me, it sucked).

The best part of the video is when they ask two people why they did what they did and one woman has the balls to says that she was fine with gay people but didn’t like it pushed in her face. This is suburban white bitch for “As long as I don’t see it, I don’t care.” That like saying that you like to eat fish as long as it doesn’t go in your mouth. This is actually how most people view homosexuality. They say that they are totally fine with it but then uses words like “Flamer”, and “Fag” in a way to describe someone who identifies as gay, or even as transgender, but are totally fine with them being gay. Let’s not forget everyone’s favorite phrase “That’s so gay.” If you were fine with gay, then you wouldn’t use those words in a negative way.

If you are reading this and don’t approve of homosexuality, think about it if the shoe was on the other foot. Would you want people to tell you that you are not normal and look at you like a sideshow freak just because you like someone the same gender as you? Treat you like you are alien because you love someone who you can’t help but love? Whether you believe that homosexuality is something you can fix or not, you will agree that you can’t help but love the person you love.

If you are a someone who is facing homophobia, and it is coming from someone close to you, and I have some advice for you: you don’t need them. If they can’t accept you for you, then they aren’t worth your time. Living in an environment where no one accepts you isn’t healthy. Cut those people out of your life until they are ready to accept you. It could take some time but if they really care about you, they will come around. You shouldn’t have to hide who you are in order to please people. Be yourself and people will care and love you no matter what.

We, at The Pop Project, accept you for you not matter who you love..or don’t love for that matter. Hence why you never see an article about us making fun of someone’s sexual orientation.

Grinds My Gears: Super Bowl Commericals

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Do you know what really “Grinds My Gears?” How stupid Super Bowl commercials have become.

I remember back in the day when we would watch the Super Bowl waiting for the commercials just to see what clever and funny things they come up with. Now, we can watch 75% of them before the Super Bowl even goes live and it’s pretty much a bunch of rich bastards in a pissing contest. Let’s also consider how much it is to get an ad for even a few seconds. The richer you are, the better spot your ad gets and your ad can be a tad bit longer. I mean, yes it was like that in the older days as well, but not to the extent that we have it today. I can safely say that 90% of the ads that aired during the Super Bowl in the last 3 years have not been funny or remotely clever. And the ones that are funny, we don’t really get a chance to see because they are in a spot where we are either flipping to the puppy bowl or using the bathroom. I understand the “higher you pay, the better you get” thing but shouldn’t quality of the ad be a reason in it as well?

There is a certain standard that one comes to expect with Super Bowl commercials and I think it’s about time that it’s taken into consideration. Like if Coke’s ad is like listening to a monotone person while a smaller business is like an episode of SNL during the 2000’s, then the smaller business should get a better spot than Coke.

Moral of the story: Don’t be a greedy bastard, and care more about the quality of the stuff you are putting out for the world to see instead of crappy stuff that rich people with no sense of creativity in them.