Mother doesn’t approve of son’s “unacceptable behavior”

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Like most things that I write on here, I was looking at Facebook when I stumbled on a video. It’s from the Australian show “Bride & Prejudice.” The show covers couples whose family don’t approve of the relationship and the impending wedding.

This video was of a son,named Chris, telling his parents that he was going to marry a man and he would like them to meet him. The mother then pretty much pushed her son away because “it’s unacceptable behavior.” His father also does the same as both say that it’s against their beliefs. Then it’s gets slightly worse. The mother, who is doing all of the talking, then goes on to say that she won’t meet his fiancé and that they just want to contact him. At this point, it’s very obvious how this is going to go. Chris says, what is probably the best response:

“Well, just me is all of me. You can choose all of me or none of me. Not just part of me.”

His mother says “Well, if that’s the way it’s gotta be, that’s the way it’s gonna be.” At this point, it’s very clear that they aren’t going to budge on this. It ends very sadly when his mother asks for a hug before he leave but he just walks away. Then his mother says this:

“I feel sorry for him, he’s chosen a hard road to travel, and I’ve realised how wrong it is. It is just an unacceptable behaviour.”

Before we, mainly me, become very judgmental (which is very hard at this point), let’s get the background: Chris’ mother, named Yvonne, is a Jehovah’s witness. Jehovah’s witnesses consider homosexuality to be a sin. They feel that “homosexuality behavior and feelings” should be suppressed. If a member doesn’t suppress it, then they are pretty much shunned from everyone not family. But the family is to openly let that person know how they disapprove of their actions. Chris’ father, named Geoff, is a very much a traditionalist. That one is pretty much explanatory.

So Yvonne is against because she believes it’s a sin doesn’t want to be shunned because she is indirectly participating in homosexuality behavior. Geoff just believes that a man and a woman should only be married and doesn’t agree with homosexuality. Just a note: I’ll won’t be making comments based on religion, at least not intentionally. While I have many non PG 13 thoughts on the matter, I respect religion. I apologize in advance if any comments from this point on seem like it’s geared toward tearing down a religion.

I was always under the impression that a parents just wants their child to be happy. I really don’t see how your child being happy because they found the one they want to spend the rest of their life in a person of the same gender is a bad thing. I’m all for having beliefs and sticking to them, but are they worth not having a relationship with a child? There was ways to keep their belief and still have a relationship with son. They could have taken the trip to the States, where he was living, and just meet his fiancé. He wasn’t asking them to throw a party. It’s not like meeting him would have killed anyone.

Besides, does it really affect their  life in a major way? Is their life really impacted by the fact their son is marrying a man? It’s not like its going to be causing them pain to see her son happy. The worst part of this is how they were so willing to just not be in their son’s life. Who would do that? I’m not trying to tell anyone how to parent, but that isn’t parenting. I really don’t understand why parents disown their children for telling them who they are. That’s not being a good parent, especially when they are supposed to teach their children to respect others that may be different from them. Love thy neighbor. I do give them credit for not fighting  but that was still bad parenting.

People just need to stop looking at the parties involve and just realize that love is love. What difference does it make if it is man and woman, woman and woman, or man and man? As long as the people are involved are happy, it doesn’t matter. You can’t help who you fall in love with. People need to stop trying to control other people and things they have no control over. Just stop and let people live their life, especially if it’s not hurting any one. No one or government should be able to tell other how to live their lives…unless it’s something horribly wrong. Like marrying an animal. There’s more important things to worry about than whether or not Joe is married to Gary, or what Cindy and Tina are doing in the comforts of their home. Like I’ve said in the past, if people can’t accept you for you-then they aren’t worth it.

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You know what really “Grinds My Gears?” Homophobia.

Across the pond, a British DJ decided to walk down the street and hold hands with another straight friends of his after he heard his openly gay friend talk about harassment he gets when he walks down the street holding hands with his boyfriend. Like any good social experiment, they video taped it. As they walk down the street, you can see the looks that they get. The people literally go out of their way to stare.  It reminded me of the scenes in teen movies where the main character had a rumor spread around about them and they walked down the hallway in slow motion as the people turn their head and talk about the main character with the people around them (I’ve had that happen before and believe me, it sucked).

The best part of the video is when they ask two people why they did what they did and one woman has the balls to says that she was fine with gay people but didn’t like it pushed in her face. This is suburban white bitch for “As long as I don’t see it, I don’t care.” That like saying that you like to eat fish as long as it doesn’t go in your mouth. This is actually how most people view homosexuality. They say that they are totally fine with it but then uses words like “Flamer”, and “Fag” in a way to describe someone who identifies as gay, or even as transgender, but are totally fine with them being gay. Let’s not forget everyone’s favorite phrase “That’s so gay.” If you were fine with gay, then you wouldn’t use those words in a negative way.

If you are reading this and don’t approve of homosexuality, think about it if the shoe was on the other foot. Would you want people to tell you that you are not normal and look at you like a sideshow freak just because you like someone the same gender as you? Treat you like you are alien because you love someone who you can’t help but love? Whether you believe that homosexuality is something you can fix or not, you will agree that you can’t help but love the person you love.

If you are a someone who is facing homophobia, and it is coming from someone close to you, and I have some advice for you: you don’t need them. If they can’t accept you for you, then they aren’t worth your time. Living in an environment where no one accepts you isn’t healthy. Cut those people out of your life until they are ready to accept you. It could take some time but if they really care about you, they will come around. You shouldn’t have to hide who you are in order to please people. Be yourself and people will care and love you no matter what.

We, at The Pop Project, accept you for you not matter who you love..or don’t love for that matter. Hence why you never see an article about us making fun of someone’s sexual orientation.