Let’s talk about Pride

Every year during Pride Month, some people think it’s a good idea to have “straight pride” parade It’s pretty much like clockwork. So I thought it would be a perfect time to talk about everything that is wrong with the idea of a “straight pride” parade and why we have Pride. It’s sad that we still have to deal with stuff like this in 2019.

What’s wrong with Straight Pride?

First thing is that I’m not saying you shouldn’t be proud and show pride in who you are and your sexuality. No one is saying that. In fact, if you are straight, you should be celebrating the fact that you don’t have to worry about whether or not you will get beat up or killed for showing public displays of affection with the person you love. You don’t have to worry about getting called slurs or disowned because you love who you love.

Sure, it can happen if you are straight, but it’s more than less just based on the character of the person you are dating. It could also be based on whether or not your love is forbidden based on family blood feud if you are in a CW drama or soap opera. But it’s not usually based on the gender of the person you love. If what I have listed still doesn’t make you under what Pride month is really all about, then I feel sorry for you.

Why we have Pride?

Pride month is the month that the LGBTQ celebrates each other and themselves. Between people tell you that you are going to hell for loving who you love, fear of not being accepted by those close to you, or constantly being judged, Pride is a celebration of being proud of who you are. It’s a celebration of being and loving who you are. It’s a celebration of being different and just being you.

When all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free.”–Barack Obama.

The reason that there is a Pride Month is because of the Stonewall Riots in 1969. Stonewall Riots were against police raids on a local LGBTQ bar just because they were LGBTQ. They were having a good time and enjoying life, but that was against the law. At this time, it was illegal to LGBTQ. The US Government kept lists on people that were/suspected of being LGBTQ, LGBTQ friendly establishments, and anyone friends with LGBTQ. You could legally fire someone for being LGBTQ. They would track your mail if you got LGBTQ material sent to you. Cities even did sweeps to get rid of LGBTQ. THAT IS WAY THERE IS PRIDE.

What is Pride?

Pride is a place where everyone is accepted for just being them. It’s just full of love and acceptance. No one is there to judge you, make you feel bad about yourself. That’s what Pride is all about. It’s not about trying to cause a scene or show this group of being that you are better than them.

Before you sit there and think to yourself, “It’s not fair, why isn’t there a Pride for straight people?” I recommend you research why there is a need for pride for LGBTQ. That’s the problem with 95% of society today. No one looks up anything and just believe the first thing they hear. The fact that you don’t have a Pride/Heritage/History month doesn’t mean you don’t exist. It just means you didn’t have to fight for your right to exist.

To straight people, be grateful that you can bang in the streets without worrying about getting killed, beat up, or stoned. You can hold hands down the road or kiss under the stars in public. You can also get married without people telling you that your bond isn’t legal or real. Feel free to come to pride as long as you aren’t a bigoted asshole. All are welcome. You don’t have to be LGBTQ to go to Pride. It may be shocking, but even straight people go to pride. You don’t have to be LGBTQ to support the message that Pride gives.

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Sexuality isn’t a trait that you just bring up to describe people

Ignorance, the root and stem of all evil.

Frankly, I’m not really sure how to write this. I never really thought I would have to write something like this. I’m going to try to keep this tame and polite. I want this to be a little more serious. I probably will still make a few jokes and spill some tea. But this deserved to be a bit more serious than what is usually on this blog.

Someone ignorantly decided to use what they believe my sexuality to be as a trait to describe me to someone. Before I get into how insanely wrong this is, let me set the stage for you. A return customer at the place I work in came up to my coworker looking for me. My coworker didn’t know who they were talking about so they decide to describe my dress code with high emphasis on what they assumed my sexuality was. Keep in mind, I’ve only helped them once and they don’t even know me. I was even nice enough to answer all their questions and just give quality customer service the last time they stopped in. But regardless of whether they are right or wrong, it should have never ever have happened

Someone’s sexuality is an extremely important part of them. But it’s just a small piece what makes them up. By bringing it up like that, it just shows how what you really care when you are talking to someone. There are plenty of things you can bring up besides sexuality. There’s hair color, facial hair, hair style, eyes color, etc. Why would bring up something like when you don’t see it? It’s not like it’s written on our faces or anywhere on our bodies. I don’t know about you but I was never taught to use that to describe people. I don’t remember asking “Is he gay?” when playing “Guess Who.” That’s just you being ignorant.

By bringing it up, that also means you are following sexuality stereotypes and you are labeling people based on those stereotypes or what you feel is a representation of that sexuality. Think about how you would feel if this happened to you. If you are from the south, does that mean that you are racist? No, because anyone can be a racist. The same goes for sexuality. You don’t need to wear flannel and steel-toed boots to be a lesbian. You also don’t need to be overly flamboyant to be gay. What give you the right to decide a strangers sexuality based on stereotypes? Just because my voice isn’t that deep or some of my mannerism isn’t what you believe to be “masculine,” doesn’t give you the right to judge me.

Someone’s sexuality isn’t even your business. It’s their choice who knows and how they let them know. Unless they bring it up, keep you don’t need to assume that you can just tell someone’s sexuality. My mother always says “When one assumes, you make an ass out of you and me.” If they don’t tell you or bring it up, just keep your suspicions to yourself. Like I said, it’s their choice if or when they want you to know. Knowing someone’s sexuality means they trust you and feel like you won’t be one of the many ignorant people in this world that will judge them for something they have no control over. They didn’t have any control that they were born whatever sexuality they are. But you do have control on being ignorant, and frankly, a bigot. Don’t worry, you can stop being ignorant. Like I said, you can control that.

This is the nice version of what I wanted to say. Believe me, I had other choice words. Moral of the story is don’t let your ignorance or sheer lack of decency stop you from seeing the whole person . Someone’s sexuality just makes up a small part of who they are. Don’t let that be the only thing you see and judge someone on that. Judge their character, not who they want to love. Of course, if you are ignorant, they wouldn’t want you to see the real them anyways. Nobody got time for ignorant people. I know that I don’t.

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Top 5ive: Recent pride songs

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The month of June is LGBT Pride month and in honor of this month, I thought I would make a Top 5ive list of top recent pride songs. What is a pride song you ask? It’s songs that promote being yourself and celebrating who you are. These songs promote this and may even tell you metaphorically flip the finger to people that don’t accept you. Without a further ado, here’s my list.

5. “Really Don’t Care” by Demi Lovato

Eventhough the lyrics are about moving on and not listening to a former lover that scorned you, “Really Don’t Care” is just an anthem about not caring what others think and over coming bullying. You can even flip the chorus to someone that doesn’t accept you for who you are. “Even if the stars and moon collide, I never want you back into my life.” This song is just one those song that you can dance of hatred because its so upbeat. It’s one of Demi’s most underrated singles.

4. “Loser Like Me” by Glee Cast

One of the four original songs released during their second season, “Loser Like Me” is embodies everything that “Glee” was about. The song lyrics celebrate being yourself not matter who you are. While people are calling you names, they might be just jealous of you and the fact you aren’t afraid to be yourself. “Loser Like Me” is like “Really Don’t Care” as it’s an extremely underrated “Glee” song. It’s message never gets old and it’s just one of those songs that will make you happier by listening to, especially if you are going through a rough patch like in the song.

3. “Who Says” by Selena Gomez and the Scene

“Who Says” is all about self-acceptance. You might not be like the people you see on the magazine or on TV but that’s okay, because you can still be successful just being you. Selena also sings about whose place it is to tell you that you aren’t good enough. The song is a beautifully written and relatable no matter who are you. It’s all about being yourself because that’s when you are truly beautiful. True beauty is being yourself.

2. “True Colors” by Zedd and Kesha

Never heard of this song? Well, you should because it’s probably one of the most power song that Kesha has sung. “True Colors” was Kesha’s return to the music scene admist a very public battle with her record label and her former producer. The lyrics are about showing someone your “True Colors” and not hiding you are anymore because it’s not their life. It’s a really beautiful song that really showed off her vocals.

1. “Born This Way” by Lady Gaga

Is it really a surprise that this song is number one? Lady Gaga preaches about inclusion and acceptance for all and this song is literally is her stand out song. Lady Gaga is incredible human being because she doesn’t judge but rather loves unconditionally. “Born This Way” is the perfect represenation of that. Whether your a minority, LGBT, or just someone who is being bullied for being different, “Born This Way” tellings you to keep being you because you’re beautiful the way you are.

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